We have to choose to be HAPPY.
It’s important to put your best foot forward. This can be HARD and it’s definitely easier said than done. I constantly talk about how we drive ourselves insane by doing the same thing EVERYDAY. We go to work, come home, do our home duties whether it’s cooking dinner, helping the children with homework, and/or sitting at the kitchen table figuring out bills. Your day may not be like that exactly you might have a part-time job or spend most of your evenings taking your children to practices or extracurricular activities. Whatever your evening consist of if you are not fulfilling your purpose you will suffer from this type of lifestyle, even if the bills are being paid. NO ONE can determine your purpose but God and you. So whatever that purpose is, be sure to stay true to it and work daily to achieve it.
In order to be successful in life, we have to make a conscious decision to stay committed to our short-term and long-term goals.
Take starting a new business for instance. You can get wrapped up in your new idea and start hitting the ground running. You may create a website, search on YouTube for tutorials for your business or even join a few Facebook groups for support. Say you even go to the extent and make a product to sell online. If you are not consistent and expect results to come in a short time period you will become frustrated. You might slack off from making an online presence and forget the reason why you started the business in the first place. This goes for every goal that we set for ourselves. You have to stay committed even when no one is watching. You have to be your number one fan and know that in due time your moment will come and work will blossom. This WILL NOT happen if you become stagnant. So we have to choose daily to show up for ourselves and not procrastinate. We have to work hard even when we don’t feel like it, or when we don’t see results.
Let’s take a moment to reflect. Write down your procrastinating habits. It’s important to recognize the pattern in order to stop them. Sometimes we procrastinate unconsciously and find ourselves wasting time watching television or talking on the phone when we should be focusing on our goals.
Here is what you NEED TO DO!!!
Set Obtainable Goals: understand the difference between short-term and long goals. Some people don’t complete their goals because they think they can accomplish a long-term goal in a short time period. Let’s use 1 month for an example to complete a short-term goal. You may want to create a website or do research on what website platform is best for you. You can take the next 30 days to read how websites are created. You can decide if you want to build your own website or hire someone to do it for you. Understand what kind of website is good for your business whether it’s personal, commercial or a non-profit, the more you know, the better direction you can take your profession.
A long-term goal let’s say 6 months to 1 year, would be to have an online presence and gain avid readers that will spread the word about your website. This can be attainable because you are giving yourself adequate time to get this accomplished. When we complete short term and long term goals, it allows us to build self-confidence and provoke us to continue to set more goals for the future.
Set A Schedule & Stick to it: be diligent with daily plans. If you find yourself all over the place it may be time to sit down and write out a schedule. Find time to write down what you want to accomplish, why you want to accomplish it and figure out a timeline in which you can complete these goals. If you have to write hour by hour, by all means, do so. Calculate the time it takes you to get home from work and write down what you want to do until it is time to go to bed.
6:00pm-get home & start dinner
7:30 pm- help children with homework, projects, etc.
9:30pm-work on own project ex. journaling, blogging, researching etc.
10:30pm-get ready for bed
Your schedule does not have to be like this, you might have to get up earlier to complete some goals depending on how busy your evenings are. Have the schedule on your refrigerator, set times on your phone and learn how to shut the world off and focus on what you NEED to complete.
Immerse Yourself with Positive People: this can be difficult depending on your inner circle. Some people hang around negative friends and family members and don’t know it. People’s energy impacts how we see ourselves and how we view life. If you hang around people who don’t think much of themselves you will start to think that too. Find support groups and be around like-minded people. You will learn so much and make great friends. It’s a win-win situation!
Postive people have different outlooks on life. When people know what they want and how they are going to accomplish their goals it shows in their personality. Soon enough you will pick up on that energy and think like them too. They say you are the company you keep. That’s a true statement and that’s something you should keep in the back of your head when you network and build relationships.
Take a moment and write the names of people you spend time with. After you write them down think about what they are doing with their life. How do they impact you? How do they respond when you tell them your goals? Do you feel better after talking to them or do you find the conversation a waste of time?
These questions are important because it will determine the kind of people you are around. If you realize some negativity it’s time to cut the cord or take a back seat in conversing with them. They are the people hindering you from your goals and that is one thing you do not need.
Please know goals change with growth. Take it one day at a time and six months from now you will be in a better place mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Community Convo: what are some goals you want to accomplish this year? What has hindered you or what has helped you succeed in these goals? Let’s start a conversation, I am looking to hear from you!