We Are Bigger than This

I met a lady who struggled with depression. She was hopeless and did not have a good outlook on life. Our first encounter consisted of her telling me how she didn’t think no one could help her. She was stressed out with work and didn’t have any help at home. She didn’t have anyone else to turn to and thought just for a second if she went to the hospital her life might change for the better.

She was ambivalent when she arrived at the hospital because she didn’t know what to expect. She was scared because she had to trust us as professionals and listen to our word. Over a matter of days, she became comfortable and opened to options I was able to provide for her. She allowed for us to talk to family and we were able to meet with them and identify her primary issues at home. The family was not aware because she made it seem like everything was perfect. The husband agreed to help out and found ways to make “home life” better for the client. After a couple of weeks of taking medication and learning about coping skills, she was able to talk about ongoing treatment. She was discharged a few days later, followed treatment that was recommended and felt good about coming to the hosptial afterall. That was her experience with mental health but she is not alone. Continue reading “We Are Bigger than This”

Why I Went To Therapy After Pregnancy

There’s a lot of joyful moments during pregnancy along with advice, criticism, and things people tell you they did while they were pregnant. I must say my pregnancy journey was not a harsh one. I did not experience morning sickness, I was able to exercise whenever I didn’t feel lazy, and I worked up until five days prior to my due date. I felt good for the most part. I had good reports from the OBGY-N and my primary doctor. Our baby shower was a success and we have yet bought a pack of wipes or a case of diapers thus far. Our son latched on immediately and I gain more breast milk to put in the freezer. Things were looking good and I felt ready to take on the journey that was ahead of me. But after a few weeks of our son’s birth, I knew I had to see a therapist. My mental state depended on it.

People told me to say goodbye to sleep but I wasn’t sure how much sleep I was going to lose. During the hospital stay, I was spoiled by the nurses, they checked up on me every hour and helped me whenever I needed rest. I healed up better than I expected and I was walking around the hospital whenever I felt the need to stretch my legs. I was ready to go home, more than ever and the car ride home was not as bad as I was told.

Our first night home was eventful, we were up all night and our wonderful Yorki thought it was a good idea to poop in the baby’s room. Our son was screaming his head off and we all were adjusting to a new life in our home. My husband stepped on the poop in route to changing our son’s diaper. I had to take control and tell him we were going to be okay, let’s take care of the baby and poop and make our way back to bed. That first night turned into many sleepless nights. I woke up delusional wondering if having a child was really in the books for me. I wanted some rest of any kind and a small part of me wanted my old life back. I was later informed that those feelings were normal and that it will get better soon but I wasn’t sure when soon was going to come.  Continue reading “Why I Went To Therapy After Pregnancy”

How Journaling Saved My Life

Loneliness takes over a person’s mind and absorbs any ounce of happiness in their life.

When you are left with negative thoughts it can lead to a dangerous place. It’s only a matter of time before that ticking time bomb explodes. Sadly, a lot of people keep their thoughts to themselves. I mean I get it, you don’t know who to trust, and most of all you don’t want your business out there for someone else to gossip about. I have been there and to be honest with you I still struggle with that from time to time. 

2010-2011 was a rough year for me.  I was hurt from a previous relationship and to top it off, I was alone. I didn’t have the energy to do anything. I only went to work because I knew that was something I had to do in order to pay my bills. However, during that time conversations were meaningless and I viewed my life the same way. My friends were getting married and I all had were my feelings and my apartment.  Those days drove me insane! I went to work, did my duties, and rushed home to stayed in bed. I barely ate nor did I care if I had anything to eat.

When I relocated to another state I didn’t realize the importance of family. I was always around them and it’s true you don’t miss something until its gone. Well not quite gone but you catch the drift.  I was 3 1/2 hours away from home and a phone call was not always good enough. One time I managed to go home but I had to drive back to Maryland Christmas night because I worked the next day. The weather was horrible and I refused to travel alone on a holiday again. With that being said holidays were a drag and the following Christmas I didn’t do anything. Despite living in a new town and being distant with family and friends I had to find happiness within myself, but during that time I didn’t know how.

10 Surprising Benefits You’ll Get From Keeping a Journal -Thai Nguyen

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5 Reasons Why People Are Depressed & How To Get Out of It

Depression happens to a lot of people and for some, they don’t realize they are experiencing depression until someone points it out to them.  Feeling down and out can be genetic and depression can not only affect a person but the people around them. There is no scientific formula that will make someone snap out of it, but there are ways to prevent from feeling blue. You can seek a therapist, psychologist, or even a psychiatrist, these professionals know what it takes to turn those dark days around. But it’s going to take some work within yourself to do so.

Here are 5 reasons people find themselves down in the dumps and may not realize it.

Finances: Everyone wants financial freedom right? When you ask a person, what will they do with a million dollars most will say pay off debt. We work hard and find it difficult to stay afloat with bills, loans, and other debt. When you find yourself not having money to spend on small things like taking yourself out to eat or paying a past due bill it can become overwhelming. Hundreds of people are working two jobs just to stay up on their finances. And there are even more people who are working and still don’t have enough money to provide for themselves or their family. Continue reading “5 Reasons Why People Are Depressed & How To Get Out of It”

Why People are Afraid to Talk about Mental Health

No one wants to be a stigma.

People who experience mental health can feel alone. They have no one to talk to that may understand what is going on. Talking to friends and family members can be beneficial but not relatable. At first, a person may not want to admit they have an illness (I witness this all the time at work). But with the education and tools to understanding their illness, they slowly start to accept why they are hospitalized and appreciate the help when it is time for them to leave. It’s important to not only inform someone what they have but to give them an understanding that they too can conquer their mental illness. Sadly enough, we live in a society that gives mental health a stigma, which makes it difficult for people to get help and accept treatment.

Why does society do this? What’s the purpose? We march for health issues but when it comes to mental health we give the side eye. 

Some people act as if mental health does not exist. Others have no desire to be a part of the topic because they feel that the matter is not important to them. It is easy to talk about mental health when a disaster happens, but that’s not the ONLY time we need to talk about it. Mental health should be a part of daily conversations. People should obtain mental health resources without feeling like an outcast or think the world is judging them. Mental health is just as important as our medical health and it’s time society takes this topic seriously.

We have to do better for our community and generations after us

When a tragedy is caused by someone who experienced a mental break, it’s common to be shocked. After we learn they experience mental illness we hear a few things about their diagnoses and that’s it. But why wait for things to get to that point? If a person is not taking care of themselves mentally, it can lead to harming themselves or others or worse, death.

What is mental health? For starters, it’s something society seems to have a hard time understanding. How can anyone accept something when we don’t understand it?

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