Relationships Take Maturity – Here’s How to Handle Conflicts


Our childhood years are pivotal moments. This is the time when we’re introduced to love and relationships. Typically starting with our parents and trickling down to siblings and other relatives in our family. I learned the effects of childhood relationships during my undergraduate years when I majored in psychology. Interactions with parents and people close to us affect us in so many ways. For example an only child may prefer more personal space than a child who has multiple siblings. A person who raised by a single parent may have different perspectives on relationships compared to someone brought up in a two-parent household. It takes insight to understand that some childhood upbringing may not be the best to carry on into adulthood, especially when it affects future relationships.

Not everyone is taught how to love. Some people go through life not knowing what love truly means.

Generations love differently, just think about it.  Babyboomers being born between 1946-1964 and experience different opportunities during childhood. Some went to college to further their education while others worked good-paying jobs right out of high school, working their way up to CEO status or high management positions. Whether they further their education or not, some people in that generation were known to live in households with unstable relationships. Men would marry and have other families causing friction in the household. Wives who invested into their spouse didn’t have the strength or finances to leave due to their husband being the breadwinner. They practically called the shots and if they were caught with another woman it was brushed off. Can you imagine what love was like in a household like that? Now granted there are some women who may live like that even today, but back in those days, it was the norm. Continue reading “Relationships Take Maturity – Here’s How to Handle Conflicts”

We DREAM – Kim Abney

I remember meeting Kim in ACT 101 summer program my first year at Bloomsburg University. There was something about Kim’s personality that I admire. I knew at that time she was going to do something great. Bloomsburg University set a foundation for students to be their best selves and prepared students to succeed post-graduation. Observing Kim’s success has been astonishing. I was honored that she took a moment to tell me about her program We DREAM. There are a lot of business ventures people can dedicate their time to in life. But it takes a special person to want to give back to the community and provide services to a younger generation and inspire them to have a better future.

I admire and appreciate what Kim is doing in her community. This amazing young lady is a Bloomsburg University Alumni and does not take her education for granted. This Philadephia native from West Oak Lane engages her time and energy in paving a path for students to know they too can be successful and that someone in the community cares about them. She is a school counselor for the Philadelphia school district and involves herself with students daily speaking life into their existence.

What inspired you to create We DREAM and how did you come up with the title?
KA: We DREAM stands for We Do Realize Every Adolescent Matters. This name was given to me by a creative friend who felt I had what it would take to make We DREAM blossom. Continue reading “We DREAM – Kim Abney”

Together Helping Each Other Overcome-Tori Rose

We live in a society where competition can be oh so unnecessary. For some woman, (not all) have a hard time crediting women when we see them doing well in the community. I must say I am the complete opposite and one of my goals for this website is to embrace women who want to do good for others. I pray my actions will be passed on to other ladies and generations to come.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve reached out to Tori Rose and learned about her incredible business Together Helping Each Other Overcome. As a young adult and a woman looking for places to network and finding opportunities to be a part of organizations, it can become challenging, especially when you work a 9-5. I think it’s even more challenging when you are not from the city you currently live in. I think you can be at a disadvantage because you don’t recall the girl from high school who makes changes in the community, or can’t recognize an activist that everyone knew about from undergrad.

Tori Rose The Connector host multiple events for people to meet and greet. In addition, she has an organization that helps people with their resumes, marketing, team building, and interviewing skills. Nowadays there are A LOT of competition when it comes to landing a job. It only helps to have someone coach you that has the skills to get you the job that you want to work for. Tori Rose is a Baltimore native and has the heart to help others obtain their goals. Take a moment and read about her amazing accomplishments and get information about networking events around the Baltimore Metro Area. Continue reading “Together Helping Each Other Overcome-Tori Rose”

Say Yes to You! -Amy Bernier

I met Amy Bernier at a speaking engagement. She was the first person to talk and I was engaged from the moment she talked about her business. I knew after the event I had to have a conversation with her. She talked about her life story and why she decided to stop her teaching career in Massachusetts. Say Yes Coaching is all about putting yourself first. This is so critical to people who don’t look at themselves as a priority. Our mental health depends on us to say yes to ourselves. When we focus on things that cannot and will not help us progress in our lives it hinders us to perform growth. Be sure to read what Amy has to say and learn how she can help you work towards becoming your better self!

Also, take a moment to read about her story and check out a freebie at the end of the interview!

How did you get the name Say Yes Coaching?

AB: I used to be the kind of person that would say YES to EVERYONE. I was an Overachiever AND a People Pleaser. I helped people a lot because I was a good person and a hustler. My heart was huge, I was doing everything for everyone and I was working hard ALL. THE. TIME. What I would come to find, this is a DEADLY combination.

Why The Pause is so Important and How did I get there-Video

Can you give me a ride to the airport? YES. Can you help me move? YES. Can you pick me up at the bar? YES. Can you help me with my homework? YES. Want to be my partner in a fitness challenge? YES. (And on and on and on and on and on and on) I didn’t blanket say yes to everything per se…, however, if you were in trouble and needed help, support, encouragement, a shoulder to cry on, you name it, I was there for YOU. I would contort myself my schedule and emotions to HELP. Continue reading “Say Yes to You! -Amy Bernier”

A Note To Self-Something You Should Read

One of the biggest challenges as a blogger is trying to figure out content to
write. I mean there are a lot of topics to discuss, but I don’t want to write just any ol’ thing. I like to write on issues people can relate and learn from, so for me, this can be a challenge. I have been stuck for a few weeks wondering what to compose and what readers would benefit from. I started so many times, deleted so many headers and scratched my head during the process. But I learned how life has a way of throwing wrenches at us especially when we least expect it. Just think about what the country has been through over the last few weeks. People suffer through multiple natural disasters making it easier for them to want to throw in the towel and forget about their dreams let alone surviving. Then it hit me and the topic of this blog came to mind.

We have high expectations for our future. We set short-term and long-term goals. We may go the extra mile and set dates for when we want them accomplished. Typically when we pursue our goals, we set aside time for us to work on them until life stressors come into play. When this happens it’s often we put things off and say I’ll do it tomorrow.

One break can turn into one too many and we find ourselves not accomplishing the goals we set for ourselves. We may experience a bad day from work, an argument with our spouse, or worry about financial issues. This leads to roadblocks, fears, and doubt causing us to forget the reason why we were so ambitious about our goals. How do we avoid that? It’s easy to set goals but it can be difficult to follow through with them.

Goals can be a wide range of things like finishing school, purchasing a car, getting your credit together, buying a house, or following a career you are passionate about. If you hang around people who don’t care about their credit, don’t know what a credit score is, or can’t imagine themselves with good credit then how do you expect to want the same thing? This also goes for buying a home, if you want to purchase a home and don’t know how to do so but every one of your friends has a home, in due time you will get one too. People enjoy helping each other especially when it’s something they’ve done before. Have you ever planned a wedding or prepared for a baby and received so much advice? It’s kinda the same thing when it comes to pursuing your goals.

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